This is a question for all of my readers out there. Recently, I was hanging with 2 of my friends and we started talking about infidelity in relationships. It just so happened that my two friends had completely opposite (and very strong) viewpoints about infidelity. It was very amusing and intriguing for me to play moderator (and also poke holes in each of their arguments). Never mind the copious amounts of alcohol and the sexual tension that was also present in the room. Anyway, here are their arguments:
Friend 1: If you touch another dude or flirt with another dude, that’s ok, but if you have sex with another dude, then I consider that to be cheating. If you cheat on me, there must be something that you’re looking for that I’m not providing. I also think that cheating means your love for me isn’t really there. I don’t care if you were drunk or had a moment of weakness. I also don’t care if you don’t have feelings for the person with whom you cheated. If you cheat on me, that will kill my love for you completely.
Friend 2: A moment of weakness won’t kill a relationship for me. I will be angry and hurt, but having sex with someone else won’t necesarily break the relationship. The only thing that will definitely break up the relationship is if you’ve been carrying on a love affair with another person or people. But I don’t consider a one-time indiscretion to be a deal-breaker.
My question to my readers is, does cheating (i.e. having sex with someone outside of a relationship) mean the relationship automatically ends? Or are you willing to forgive someone who cheats on you? Discuss. I’ll post what I think in a follow-up post.
